On the weekend of September 13th Adam's family came in for a day to visit. They came to the house and we caught up for a while and then decided to get lunch. We decided that after lunch we would go to the cemetery to visit Madeline since my mother in law, father in law and Adam hadn't been yet. Adam and I had thought about going together several times, but he wasn't ready yet. I think it was also helpful for him to have his family with us for support.
After lunch we stopped at Kroger to get some flowers for Madeline. I also wanted to get some for the daughter of one of the women from my support group since her daughter is in the same section and very close to Madeline. I found some pretty orange and yellow mums in a plastic planter for Madeline and some white carnations with a vibrant purple edge for my fellow mother's daughter. I never know what my visits with Madeline are going to be like until I get there, so I warned my family that I could be fine or I might lose it.
It was a beautiful day and they had just mowed. When we got to her grave I saw that they had poured the concrete for her marker. Hopefully that means that it will go in very quickly once it is completed. That should be by the end of October or beginning of November. We picked up the old flowers and placed the mums. While we were standing there a ground hornet flew into the hole for the marker. I noticed there was a nest started. I got irrationally angry. How dare this hornet try and build a nest over my daughter? So I of course got a stick and tore the nest apart, not thinking about the possibility of getting stung. I didn't care. Luckily it didn't sting me, but it would have been worth it if it had. After that I found the other grave and laid the flowers down telling the little girl that her mother was a very nice person and I knew she missed her very much. I had known from our support group meeting that they were close to each other, but I was surprised to find they were in the exact same row only 3 graves apart. It's funny how the world works sometimes.
We spent a while there not only visiting Madeline but also looking around since my sister in law and I were the only ones who had been there before. I was doing fine until we were getting ready to go. I walked over to hug Adam and lost it a bit. I was glad he was there and he was too. I was glad we were sharing this. We told her goodbye and then headed for the car.
It was sad, but it was a good day. I was glad to be able to share this with my in laws and glad that Adam had all of us with him for his first visit.
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