Support Group March

March 4

Tonight was my support group meeting.  It moved from it's regular place to the hospital due to weather, but at least it wasn't cancelled this month.  At first it looked like it was just going to be myself and our leader.  I told her if it ended up being that way we could leave.  The PAL group was going to be the next day anyway.  But luckily someone else came.  It was her first meeting and I was glad that she wasn't alone and it didn't get cancelled.

The meeting went well and it gave me such a relief afterwards as it always does.  Even though our stories are always different, it's still so comforting to be able to share with someone who you know understands.  Something I took away from this meeting that I'm going to try and remember is using the qualifier "at least" when talking to someone who has experienced loss and is going through grief (not just in a situation like mine, in general).  It's something you don't really think about and it's always meant as comfort, but it can sometimes come across as belittling.  It depends on the person.  But it's something I'd never really thought about before and in the future I'm going to do my best to truly think before I speak.  Sometimes saying "I'm sorry" or "I'm sorry for your loss" is enough.  Knowing you care means more than words you're trying to come up with to fill space.