Support Group January

At support group this month a mother who had experienced loss and then a successful pregnancy came in to talk to us.  I had seen her at the walk in October and the candlelight service in December and it was nice to actually meet her and hear her story.  She has an incompetent cervix as well.  This was another helpful point for me.  Now I have met someone who has the same problem I do and now has a healthy toddler and had an uneventful pregnancy.  She gave us some tips about going through pregnancy again and incorporating your lost child into your living child's life.

We of course talked about other things as people needed to.  There were two new mothers at this meeting.  While I wish there was no need to see new faces, I'm glad this group is here and I hope they got as much out of it as I do.  

Afterwards two of us stayed a bit to talk to the woman who runs the group about our pregnancies since we didn't want to share that with the group as a whole.  We didn't want to upset anyone.  That was something we wanted to discuss with her.  There is nothing that says we can't keep coming throughout our pregnancy, but I worry about upsetting someone if I look obviously pregnant even if I don't talk about it (although it will probably be a while until I really show).  I don't want to lose this outlet and support, but I also don't want to make it harder on someone else.  After talking to our leader for a bit she asked if we would be interested in a Pregnancy After Loss support group.  It's something she's always wanted to start, but timing and knowing enough people who would want to take advantage of it has been an issue.  The two of us who were there said yes.  That way we would still have that outlet and support and not have to worry about making it harder on someone else.  As long as it's not obvious I'm pregnant I still plan on attending this support group as well (it can't hurt to have two places right?).  She said she'd email us about a time and date and hopefully start in February.